“Turn your wounds into wisdom” – Oprah Winfrey
This I would say is the hardest blog post I ever had to write… But here it goes.
I would consider letting go of toxic people in your life as one of the hardest things to do. It hurts and it is not nice. It is difficult to make that decision to just let go. Those people that your life is better without. There are people in my life that just makes me feel bad about things. People placing doubt in my mind. People that is impacting my life in a negative way.
Here I am not talking about people that’s not perfect- heck, not one of us is perfect but these people you can identify by how they suck the life out of you. People that expect you to constantly them favors. How they are never happy for you. People who don’t respect your choices and the people that makes you doubt yourself, your abilities and your dreams.
I have reached a turning point in my life where I just realized that this is enough. It went on for long enough. I really deserve better than this. So this year I embarked on a journey of self discovery. Spending less time with those people and more with people inspiring me. I read an article the other day where a phycologist said that you are most like the five people you spend the bulk of your time with.
So, as a trial this year I picked 5 people that inspire me and impact my life in a positive way. So let see how it goes.
There is a very fine line in putting your trust in somebody and having somebody trust you enough that they will tell you what they have weighing on their minds. But if you are the only one listening and the only one giving and the other person just doesn’t seem to care about what you have to say, and they just continue hating on people and life and being miserable, then it is fine to let go. You don’t have to cut ties with them, you can just choose to spend less time with them.
Up until last year I had a few circles of ‘friends’ that I would hang out with and there were a few people in there that had a way of making me feel so worthless, and really belittled my ideas. I trusted them pretty much with everything happening in my life and let them in. Just so they can later use it against me. I really felt terrible about myself a lot of the time and I became a real negative person. And that is someone that I am not.
I think a lot had to do with my anxiety issues back then, but looking back at it now it was because who I surrounded myself with. They were negative and mean. And that rubbed off.
I think as a grown up we experience more poisonous people and they come disguised in all shapes and forms- family members, friends, other moms and people on social media.
The most poisonous people in my life was family members. The people that is supposed to encourage you. They are the same people that you encourage and lift up. And letting go gets complicated.
But this is the year of growth. Personal growth and business growth. Going through last year just made me realized that letting go can open your eyes and change your way in amazing ways.
I will now embrace the positive.
Hopefully others may start to see their own life also in a whole new way.
Peace and love.