Mom Burn out- 20 things to stop doing right now
August 4, 2017
We all have one or two (or in my case, more) bad habits that we constantly find ourselves doing when we could be doing more productive, enjoyable things. I’m talking here about things that really don’t need to be done as much as we do them. But, we feel obligated and required to do them. It is like we are on autopilot.
Of course, we’ve created this internal expectation of ourselves. Thanks to Pinterest mom syndrome, busy mom syndrome and trying to be everything to everyone. And it is tiring.
And all of this creates busyness. And since we’re trying to #BanBusy from our family lives, it’s time to kick some bad habits and I’m totally at fault for some of these myself at times, particularly when I’m tired — especially when I’m tired.
Feeling exhausted just seems to breed more tired behaviors and bad habits.
And so instead of sleeping, I fight sleep and I have these weird habits that only make me feel more tired and more overwhelmed. Rather than rested and ready to rock the world. And all of this leads to more and more mom burnout for me, not less.
Bad habits are formed almost without effort. And yet those same bad habits are eating up our hours, leaving us wondering where all of our time went today. Like sitting staring at your laptop and realizing it is 11pm and you did pretty much nothing since the kids went to bed.
The trick, of course, is learning new habits to replace the bad ones. So here are some of my favorite bad ones in particular:
- Checking your email every time it pops into your inbox. I formed this really super bad habit a while ago- as soon as I get home from work I switch on my laptop on the kitchen counter while I am cooking. So I decided from the 1st of August I am not doing that anymore. So far, so good.
- Cleaning everything all day. (That is me on weekends- it is like I am obsessed!)
- Worrying about things you cannot control.
- Reading your Facebook feed when bored or tired.
- Not getting enough sleep. I can function on 3 hours sleep- that much I know as I like to get up at 2am to work- it is nice and quiet and I can work in peace. Good idea? No. I am pretty sure that eventually it will take a toll on your health.
- Waking up too late and pressing the snooze button. Rather go to bed a bit earlier and stop with the snooze button!
- Filling your calendar with too much to-dos. I am super busy and at least 50% of the nonsense can be cut out if I say no.
- Expecting too much from a single day. You are a mom. Not a super being.
- Juggling multiple things at once. By multi tasking you become less effective. It is a proven fact. Set out do-able goals of the day, achieve them and feel empowered.
- Forgetting to do the important things first. Yup- me too!
- Waking up and checking email/ Facebook/ Twitter first.
- Going to bed with your phone or other device.
- Sitting all day at the computer not getting a little bit of Vitamin D.
- Looking at a device more than those you love. Have a no phone time. Mine is from 4pm until 7pm. In that time I switch it on silent and enjoy real life.
- Putting off little things for so long they add up to become big things.
- Forget to schedule time for relaxing and fun.
- Rushing through every single moment. I am always in a hurry because my days are too full. I know I need to slow down.
- Not really listening to those around you. Look your child in the eye when they talk to you. Really pay attention to them.
- Saying yes to everyone but yourself.
- Not knowing how to say no. That is the hardest one for me personally as I love to help people and want to see everyone happy. But by being more invested in their happiness and success it leaves me feeling empty. And I need to find a way to be a little less invested and start focussing more on my happiness. Easy? Hell no. But worth a try,
I really hope this helps someone out there. Do you also feel super tired and overwhelmed? Try this list and let me know how it went.