Why are we afraid to give birth?
August 13, 2017
“Why aren’t women being empowered and supported during their pregnancies so that they can get excited and look forward to their births?”
I really find it sad when I speak to first time moms and they say things like: I am going to TRY for a natural birth. (Have faith in yourself darling!)
So, there is no denying that I am an advocate for natural birth and attachment parenting, but I did ask some moms questions on why they feel they can’t do it.
So here we go:
- The Media and Hollywood. That was about to be mentioned by everyone. Who can tell me in all honesty that they have never seen a women in a movie/ TV show/ “reality series” give birth. And the mom is always on her back, screaming and swearing through contractions. Even if Hollywood had the perfect opportunity to prove that birth is powerful they won’t, because sensation sells. We have grown up believing what the media told us- that birth is painful and short and that it is normal to give birth in a hospital. We see these images as kids, watch it over and over and we even read it in books. Because normal birth is not a money maker and is not sensational.
- Other women (insert your mother/ sister/ friend/ random lady at Spar) telling you their horrific birth story. Were in essence we should be supporting the new mom in her decision and be positive about birth. Yes, I have seen cases where birth does not go as planned, and some mom’s idea of a “perfect birth” might not be the same as yours, but we need to support each other.
- Health Care Professionals- Pregnant women gets treated like vessels and pregnancy is a condition. Where as this is a very normal process that a women goes through. You are not another baby popping machine in a line of other ones. There is some hope- the doctors, midwives and consultants that are backing women up and believing in their ability to know when and where to give birth are changing the birth culture one delivery at a time. Those women that are pushing those barriers for a birth they believe in are shaping birth for the women all around them. The doulas, birth companions and antenatal educators that are spreading those good vibes, and are preaching about what is normal are empowering women to believe in themselves and to trust their bodies, and those women continue to spread that positivity.
Trust your body and trust yourself. You are so strong. And you CAN do this!