There’s nothing new about the way I parent my girls, as a matter of fact parents have been doing it naturally for as long as humans have existed.
Attachment parenting is based on responding to a baby’s needs, which in infancy include staying in very close proximity to the parent. So in my family it meant co-sleeping, breastfeeding and baby wearing.
The theory is that once the baby learns that her caretakers are reliably nurturing and protective, she builds on this internal security as she proceeds to the next developmental tasks of exploration, mastery of the environment, and forming relationships with others.
Attachment parenting is now supported by an impressive body of academic theory and research, but the basic idea is simple and intuitively obvious. Human babies are born helpless because of their big brains. To survive, they need parents to keep them from harm’s way for many years, and to teach them survival skills. So all humans are born seeking close attachments.
Our brain development, our emotional development -even our later ability to control our tempers and delay gratification – all depend on having our innate relationship needs met as infants.
The Attachment Parenting philosophy arises from actual research; both longitudinal studies of children and their parents, and advances in understanding infant brain development.
But Attachment Parenting is not a set of rules, and every parent uses it a bit differently.
Parenting is an art, not a science. As always, use your own deepest wisdom to decide what’s best for you and your family.Once the baby learns that her caretakers are reliably nurturing and protective, she builds on this internal security as she proceeds to the next developmental tasks of exploration, mastery of the environment, and forming relationships with others.
I think it works so well for me because I enjoy having them close- both girls are dead of winter babies so having them in bed with me made perfect sense. And babywearing too as I only have 2 hands and 2 kids.
But we all have different styles but I thought I would share this with you as I really find it made my life easier. I trust my instincts as a mom.
And you should trust yourself too. And you are doing a great job!